Avoid Regrets

Being regretful does no one any good. It is imperative to not let past regrets overshadow the bright light of the future.

The feeling of regret does not add much joy to anyone’s day; fortunately, we do have the power to steer clear of some of that unpleasantness.

How many times did we say or hear someone say:

• I wish I had not lost touch with my friend or my relatives.

Although the clock cannot take us back to a specific point in time; we have occasions and resources to remedy the situation before it’s too late. Yes, it is possible to smooth over the issue of the moment so as not to make room for tomorrow’s regrets.

• Oh, if only I had completed my education….

You may have missed the opportunity the first time around but, the door to completing your education may still be open for you. Take a step forward and make it happen.

• I wish I had the courage to live life being me and not someone others want me to be.

You can be you if you believe in yourself. No one can do that as well as you!

• I wish I had not spent so much money on the new car. The cost of the extra accessories put a big hole in my pocket.

Be financially responsible and don’t spend hard-earned money on things you don’t need.

• I wish I had been more selective with my choice of words when my parents said….

Be cognizant of the fact that saying positive things takes about the same amount of energy as saying harsh things. Positivity often keeps regrets at arm’s length.

Time and occasions are neither refundable nor are they cancellable commodities in life. As no one wants their present-day exploits to get overshadowed by past misgivings, it’s important we find a way to move on from feeling regretful.

Here are some suggestions to help us move forward:

• Accept that making mistakes is human. Forgive yourself, and learn from your mistake.

• Do not overthink the slip-up. It may not be as bad as you believe it to be.

• Try to make amends where possible. It might be easier than the alternative.

• Practice mindfulness.

• Avoid ruminating and allow yourself some kindness.